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😫😠😓 So you're ready to meet that special someone, but you're tired of the constant swiping of dating apps. Or maybe you can't stand another date with someone who only wants to hook up or doesn't look like their profile picture. Ditch the algorithm! The best way to show off your great personality is to get out there and meet people in real life. Chatting in person is easier than it might seem at first, and we're here to help with plenty of suggestions on how and where to meet people!

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Change up your routine to meet new people.

  1. Going to familiar spots usually means you'll be around familiar people. You're way more likely to meet people by going somewhere you've never been before. Head to karaoke night at a spot across town you've never been to before, or take up your coworker's invitation to meet up for a spin class at their gym. Anything that breaks you out of your routine is another chance at finding love![1]
    • Think about the type of person you want to meet, then spend time in places where they're likely to hang out. If being a dog lover is a non-negotiable, hang out at the dog park. If you want someone who shares your passion for fitness, spend more time at the gym.[2]
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Take a class or lesson to get out of your comfort zone.

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Pursue hobbies you're passionate about.

  1. You'll have a common interest with anyone else who's participating. If you're doing something that really excites you, you're going to light up and look like you're having a good time. That type of glow is super attractive on anyone, so you might actually be more likely to meet people when you're having fun. And as a bonus, even if you don't meet anyone, it will still be a great time![5]
    • For instance, if you're really into skateboarding, go spend the day hanging out at the skate park.[6]
    • If you love art, check out the museums and galleries near you.
    • Is music basically your lifeline? Attend free outdoor concerts when the weather is nice.[7]
    • If you're passionate about others, try volunteering! It's a great way to give back to your community, and you might meet new people while you're doing it.

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Ask your friends to play Cupid.

  1. Lean into your network to meet new people. Let your friends know you're hoping to meet someone, and ask if they have any acquaintances they think you'd be a good match with. If your friends are paired up, you can even ask if their significant other has any single friends you might like. This can be a great way to meet someone—and as a bonus, you already know you'll like their friends![8]
    • To help your first meeting be less awkward, have your friend come along. For instance, you might all meet up at a bar for drinks, or your friend could host a cookout at their house where you're both invited.[9]
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Attend meet-up groups and singles events in your area.

  1. Look for groups and clubs that match your interests. Depending on where you live, you may be able to find all sorts of local meet-up groups. These can be based on specific interests, like running, model building, or acapella singing, which is awesome if you're into those things. However, there are also meet-up groups that are more like a social club where you can mingle and meet people. You can even look for groups in your area that host singles nights—they're all about getting dates![10]
    • It might feel a little awkward to go to one of these at first, but you may be surprised how much fun you have!
    • It can help to prepare ahead of time with a few ice breakers and conversation topics so you don't have to think of what to say on the spot.

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Try speed dating to meet a lot of people quickly.

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Make eye contact with people while you're out.

  1. You have to notice someone to meet them. Make eye contact and smile this will get someone to notice you.[12] It can be tempting to use your phone as a way to pass the time when you're out somewhere by yourself, but this can actually backfire if you're trying to meet someone. Staring at your phone sends a signal that you don't want to be bothered. Not to mention that if you're busy watching TikTok videos, you won't notice if the cutie across the room keeps giving you flirtatious looks.[13]
    • Even if you're not on your phone, keep your head up rather than staring at the ground. That way, your posture will show others that you're confident and open to chatting.[14]

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Introduce yourself to people who seem interesting.

  1. Don't just wait for them to talk to you! Okay, it's true, this can be challenging at first, but the good news is that the more you do it, the easier it will get! So take a deep breath to steady those butterflies, walk up to someone you want to meet, and say hi. They might just start chatting with you![15]
    • If you're totally nervous about this, lower the stakes. Start by introducing yourself to people you don't want to date. That will help you feel more confident the next time you see someone you're interested in.
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Strike up a conversation about what's happening around you.

  1. Use your environment as a casual lead-in. Once you find someone cute and introduce yourself, look for ways to keep the conversation going. Don't worry about corny pick-up lines—the easiest and most natural way to talk to someone is just to make an observation or ask a question about something that's around you.[16]
    • For instance, if you're at a bar and someone orders a craft beer you've never tried, you might say, "I've never had that one, but that brewery makes my favorite raspberry sour."
    • If you're at the grocery store, you might point to what someone is buying and say, "I've been wanting to try a new laundry detergent but I'm not sure what to get. Do you like that one?"
    • At a vintage shop, you might ask someone as they pass by, "Do you know what era this table is from?"[17]

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Read their body language to see if they're interested.

  1. Check out their facial expression and eye contact, in particular. If you're chatting with someone and they're making eye contact and smiling, their body is turned toward you, and they're giving you detailed answers, congrats![18] Even if it's not a love match, you've successfully started chatting with someone you think is cute.[19]
    • On the other hand, if their arms are crossed or they turn away from you, they're frowning or looking away, or they're only giving one- or two-word answers to your questions, they're probably not open to talking. Don't take it personally!
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Lose the fear of hearing "no."

  1. Some people won't be interested, and that's okay. In fact, it's kind of a good thing. It means you're trying to meet people, and that's something to be proud of. Even better, you're getting practice at starting a conversation with strangers—and in today's digital world, that puts you way ahead of the game when it comes to meeting people in person.[20]
    • Push yourself out of your comfort zone by setting a goal of how many people to introduce yourself to. You might decide you have to introduce yourself to 3 people over the next 2 weeks, for instance.

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      This article was co-authored by Christina Jay, NLP and by wikiHow staff writer, Amy Bobinger. Christina Jay is a Matchmaker and Certified Life Coach based in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. Christina is the founder of Preferred Match (, her matchmaking service that finds love for successful and elite individuals. She has over 10 years of coaching experience, earned her NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) certification through NLP Canada Training, and has a BA in Business Administration from Brock University. This article has been viewed 17,362 times.
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